Post by J Doe on Apr 29, 2018 5:44:48 GMT 8
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Borderline_personality_disorder#Signs_and_symptoms
Borderline personality disorder may be characterized by the following signs and symptoms:
.Markedly disturbed sense of identity
.Frantic efforts to avoid real or imagined abandonment and extreme reactions to such
.Splitting ("black-and-white" thinking)
.Impulsivity and impulsive or dangerous behaviours
.Intense or uncontrollable emotional reactions that often seem disproportionate to the event or situation
.Unstable and chaotic interpersonal relationships
.Self-damaging behavior
.Distorted self-image[4]
.Dissociation
.Frequently accompanied by depression, anxiety, anger, substance abuse, or rage
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www.nimh.nih.gov/health/topics/borderline-personality-disorder/index.shtml
Intense and highly changeable moods, with each episode lasting from a few hours to a few days
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Signs and symptoms that *used to* be noted as being part of BPD but are now minimised or missing:
Choosing a partner based on what the person could do for them, including elevating their social status, advance their career, choosing someone who was wealthy.
Being jealous of and competitive with other females, including their own daughters. A common behaviour of BPD mothers was to make their daughters look unattractive, so they would not be a threat to male attention. This usually began when their daughters were around 7. They would not let them brush hair, teeth, bathe or put on clean clothes before school. They would urge their daughters to bring home male schoolmates who they would disparage their daughter to, and flirt with.
Constant lying
Extremely manipulative
Constant Victimhood: No matter what terrible thing they did to someone, they would walk away feeling wronged and sorry for themselves.
Could not be single. But also would not do the work needed to hold a relationship together.
Used sex as a tool and a weapon; to get what they wanted, control, punish, blackmail etc.
Were addicted to the kind of sex other people would find risky, wrong, or disgusting.
Always needed to be the centre of attention; were addicted to the spotlight
Could never be wrong. Could never accept fault or blame for anything
Inflexible, black and white thinking
Extremely shallow, materialistic, and superficial.
Chronicly low self esteem that led to wildly out of proportion anger or despair when they felt judged, or that someone was saying, they did something wrong.
Rage if they didn't get their way.
Character assassination of their "enemies".
Extremely controlling in relationships.
CANNOT be happy. Desperately wanted something/ one as this was the answer to everything, until they got them, then they were the same let down as everyone/ thing else.
Had little insight into themselves and so would carry out the same wrong/ self defeating behaviours over and over, being suprised each time, when it didn't work out.
Although it says above "Frantic efforts to avoid real or imagined abandonment" it (and the other sites) make it sound like only fear drives this behaviour. But previously it was acknowledged they also had massive ego's which meant they would react with rage if someone left or tried to leave, and would seek revenge on the one who had "betrayed" them with abandonment.
Above it says "Intense and highly changeable moods, with each episode lasting from a few hours to a few days", and most sites now say this. Previously they used to say these intense moods lasted minutes. The BPD would be raging at you like you had committed murder, for burning the toast one minute, and sobbing how much they loved you the next. This caused chronic stress for those living with them and left them always feeling like they were standing on ground that shifted constantly under their feet. This info would have been based on talking to BPD's and/ or those who had to interact with them. So how have brain scans changed this?
The suicide rate for BPD's was 8% but it was thought most of these deaths were accidents as the borderline had not intended to die, but to manipulate someone else. Now not mentioned as a motive on most of these new/ image management pages.
It should be noted that not every BPD has every symptom. And the severity of the symptoms differs also.
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In my readings about criminal psychology, true crime, and advice columns, I saw some other behaviours BPD's carried out over and over and over, even though they were not listed anywhere as typical BPD. Eventually I added them to my own list of BPD behaviours, and things to guard against. I am going to list them here.
1. BPD's have a true predator's sense of weakness or vulnerability in another. They would then approach the person, "mirror" them to quickly build a false closeness, get into a relationship with them, then the real person would come out. One of the most common examples of this was the BPD who would approach a man bruised by an unhappy childhood or his parents divorce, tell him they didn't believe in divorce and would never do it; then the real abusive BPD could come out once they were married/ had kids.
2. Another of the most common behaviours was to play "damsel in distress," knowing that many (most?) men would go charging in to save her. I have seen this behaviour destroy so many males and it sickens me. It MUST be pointed out to them as a pattern before they end up blowing up their own life or even in prison because of their need to "save" someone who never needed saving. Who was the ruthless shark to their minnow.
3. When married men were caught having an affair, they would often turn on their heartbroken wives with rage; accusing the wife of never having loved them, of having abused them. Where did all this anger come from? The new beliefs about the wife? How could they behave so viciously in the divorce; doing everything they could to destroy her or leave her destitute? How could they suddenly try or succeed in killing her? They weren't all previously violent. Where do you think it came from?
4. BPD's were drawn to particular careers; teachers, psychologists/ therapists and sex workers. (I actually did read in mainstream media from a doctor/ researcher that most strippers are BPD).
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Understanding borderlines is vital for targets since our enemies are both using them to destroy us AND making us look like them.
Can you imagine what we sound like to the average person who has no understanding that there is a war raging in every community in the world; a holocaust of targets? "Oh no nothing is my fault, it's just everyone is against me! I know things go wrong for me everywhere I go and I'm the common denominator in all these situations but it's not my fault, people just turn against me!"
We have to stop being their hand puppets. And it begins with doing constant prayer over the implanted urges to behave in BPD or Narc ways.
BPD women prefer going after men in relationships. They are often said to have "daddy issues" but I don't think that's true. After watching for years, the way they gleefully take a wrecking ball to other womens lives, delight in their pain, I'd say they have mommy issues. They need to hurt other women as a cathartic release and to boost their self esteem.
And if it's a great high to take a man away from another woman.... how much greater the high to take a man away from a pregnant wife! A wife with cancer! Or the absolute pinnacle..... get him to kill her.
For years I watched and read true crime stories as my main entertainment. I mainly preferred stories about serial killers; I was interested in how they turned out how they did (spoiler alert; mind control), with the occasional husband kills wife story (boring because they were mostly the same).
After I switched to celebrity gossip as my entertainment, I would still read the occasional crime story that caught my eye, usually a cold case going to trial. There would be links to similar stories on the page, so I would read those too. Over and over I would find myself reading a story abut a man who killed his wife after begining an affair (how many would I have read if I read true crime regularly?) When he eventually broke up with his affair partner, she would go straight to the police and tell what he did. She would present herself as some innocent, who only knew after the fact, and stayed with him out of fear. Now he was gone she could do the right thing. After the insight I had gained reading about BPD's and after watching the queen of all borderlines Angelina Jolie rampage through Hollywood relationships, I didn't believe that.
I believed the borderline urged him to kill, did everything she could to talk him into it and her going to the police was simple revenge, or if they hadn't broken up yet; attention and centrality. Now if I knew this from the adventures of one actress and some true crime reading, don't you think the police who run up against these drama causing creatures constantly should have known it even more? Here's a little secret - they do. Prosecutors too.
The "justice system" is part of the system set up by the real leaders/ real terrorists in the world. Its function is not to bring justice, it is to keep the unaware people in the middle of this war, asleep; "Don't worry we're here to take care of all problems, you just stop looking and go back to your own life." Just like the media.
One thing it is the justice systems job to do is try and keep the character and personality disordered people free in the world to cause more damage. So unless an NPD or BPD draws too much attention to themselves or says something that implicates them (they're not as smart as they think they are), they will be allowed to skate. And if that is not possible, I'm sure all of us have seen juries mind controlled to let people off. Not that they help ALL of them (just like not all targets are openly stalked), it would be too obvious a pattern. But there are few actual bad people in prison versus people who were set up and mind controlled to commit crimes.
*NOTE*
Of course not everyone who works in the justice system is aware of the truth (just like the govt and shadow govt). And just like every other group in the world, there are good people and targets mixed in there too. And even most of those who are doing the work of the real terrorists don't *really* know what they are doing. Since they are doing one of the most common and most disastrous behaviours done by the majority of people today - they have not looked into what they are giving their support to. Those who work in the "justice" system need to be told what is going on in the world. Something we can do if we do our constant prayer, understand how our enemies want us to behave, and refuse to be their hand puppets anymore. Sorry for veering off course here but I see so much (induced/ magnified) anger in the world, and people separating into groups who point fingers at, and are hostile to, each other, and know this is the worst thing we could do. We are all in the same boat. They plan to destroy Everybody, even those who help them and (knowingly or unknowingly), do their dirty work. So instead of attacking each other for their amusement, why not refuse to play our part and give information instead? Work together instead?
*END NOTE*
Back to BPD's. Here are some of the BPD's I have seen in true crime/ true life stories. Note which of the BPD behaviours you see from the lists given above. Remember they might not have them all. If you are not comfortable saying they are BPD, then they have BPD traits. And people with BPD traits are people to stay away from.
Something interesting though. They will be called psycopaths, narcissists, anti social, sociopaths, histrionics; almost never borderlines. In fact unless you have studied psychology or done some independent study of your own, you may never even have heard of BPD. It seems almost cloaked.
There is much overlap between the Cluster B personality disorders, rather than distinct lines so I am going to be as generous as possible and say most of the time it is missed, that these people are more BPD than HPD. And BPD's have the same lack of conscience as the sociopath. If they want it, it is theirs. If they want to do something, it is right to do and it is anyone who opposes them who is wrong.
Eric Roberts & Anne Heche (Fatal Desire/ Fatal Error) 2006
A former policeman falls in love with a woman who is being abused by her husband
Wife, Mother, Murderer
A woman born in a poor rural area is determined she will always live a wealthy life
"Like Mother, Like Son" Full Film (Santé & Kenneth Kimes)
mother and son decide to take an elderly womans rental building
Empty cradle
A woman must fight to prove she gave birth to a live baby in the hospital, who was then abducted, and not the dead baby the hospital say is hers.
Thicker than blood larry mclinden
A man must fight to stay in the life of his son despite the best attempts of his ex wife
Barbara Mandrell in The Wrong Girl -Full Movie 1999
A young man begins a volatile relationship
Cold Case Files - Love Triangle
Documentary; Who killed the man found in a burning car? (contains images of the charred body)
Cold Case Files - Death to a Deacon
A man disappears after leaving his home and marriage (contains images of a dead body)
Small Sacrifices
A womans children are shot by a carjacker.
Books:
Blind Faith by Joe McGinniss
A mans wife is killed in a botched car theft/ robbery when they pull into a rest stop.
Before He Wakes by Jerry Bledsoe
A womans two husbands both die in mysterious shooting accidents.
Evidence Of Love by John Bloom & Jim Atkinson
This book is about a woman who killed her lovers wife. The authors potray her as innocent (she was mentally unaware of what she was doing). I found it infuriating and couldn't finish it but I read enough to recognise her for what she was. The signs are there even in a book that is pro killer
Borderline personality disorder may be characterized by the following signs and symptoms:
.Markedly disturbed sense of identity
.Frantic efforts to avoid real or imagined abandonment and extreme reactions to such
.Splitting ("black-and-white" thinking)
.Impulsivity and impulsive or dangerous behaviours
.Intense or uncontrollable emotional reactions that often seem disproportionate to the event or situation
.Unstable and chaotic interpersonal relationships
.Self-damaging behavior
.Distorted self-image[4]
.Dissociation
.Frequently accompanied by depression, anxiety, anger, substance abuse, or rage
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www.nimh.nih.gov/health/topics/borderline-personality-disorder/index.shtml
Intense and highly changeable moods, with each episode lasting from a few hours to a few days
----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
Signs and symptoms that *used to* be noted as being part of BPD but are now minimised or missing:
Choosing a partner based on what the person could do for them, including elevating their social status, advance their career, choosing someone who was wealthy.
Being jealous of and competitive with other females, including their own daughters. A common behaviour of BPD mothers was to make their daughters look unattractive, so they would not be a threat to male attention. This usually began when their daughters were around 7. They would not let them brush hair, teeth, bathe or put on clean clothes before school. They would urge their daughters to bring home male schoolmates who they would disparage their daughter to, and flirt with.
Constant lying
Extremely manipulative
Constant Victimhood: No matter what terrible thing they did to someone, they would walk away feeling wronged and sorry for themselves.
Could not be single. But also would not do the work needed to hold a relationship together.
Used sex as a tool and a weapon; to get what they wanted, control, punish, blackmail etc.
Were addicted to the kind of sex other people would find risky, wrong, or disgusting.
Always needed to be the centre of attention; were addicted to the spotlight
Could never be wrong. Could never accept fault or blame for anything
Inflexible, black and white thinking
Extremely shallow, materialistic, and superficial.
Chronicly low self esteem that led to wildly out of proportion anger or despair when they felt judged, or that someone was saying, they did something wrong.
Rage if they didn't get their way.
Character assassination of their "enemies".
Extremely controlling in relationships.
CANNOT be happy. Desperately wanted something/ one as this was the answer to everything, until they got them, then they were the same let down as everyone/ thing else.
Had little insight into themselves and so would carry out the same wrong/ self defeating behaviours over and over, being suprised each time, when it didn't work out.
Although it says above "Frantic efforts to avoid real or imagined abandonment" it (and the other sites) make it sound like only fear drives this behaviour. But previously it was acknowledged they also had massive ego's which meant they would react with rage if someone left or tried to leave, and would seek revenge on the one who had "betrayed" them with abandonment.
Above it says "Intense and highly changeable moods, with each episode lasting from a few hours to a few days", and most sites now say this. Previously they used to say these intense moods lasted minutes. The BPD would be raging at you like you had committed murder, for burning the toast one minute, and sobbing how much they loved you the next. This caused chronic stress for those living with them and left them always feeling like they were standing on ground that shifted constantly under their feet. This info would have been based on talking to BPD's and/ or those who had to interact with them. So how have brain scans changed this?
The suicide rate for BPD's was 8% but it was thought most of these deaths were accidents as the borderline had not intended to die, but to manipulate someone else. Now not mentioned as a motive on most of these new/ image management pages.
It should be noted that not every BPD has every symptom. And the severity of the symptoms differs also.
-------------------------------------------
In my readings about criminal psychology, true crime, and advice columns, I saw some other behaviours BPD's carried out over and over and over, even though they were not listed anywhere as typical BPD. Eventually I added them to my own list of BPD behaviours, and things to guard against. I am going to list them here.
1. BPD's have a true predator's sense of weakness or vulnerability in another. They would then approach the person, "mirror" them to quickly build a false closeness, get into a relationship with them, then the real person would come out. One of the most common examples of this was the BPD who would approach a man bruised by an unhappy childhood or his parents divorce, tell him they didn't believe in divorce and would never do it; then the real abusive BPD could come out once they were married/ had kids.
2. Another of the most common behaviours was to play "damsel in distress," knowing that many (most?) men would go charging in to save her. I have seen this behaviour destroy so many males and it sickens me. It MUST be pointed out to them as a pattern before they end up blowing up their own life or even in prison because of their need to "save" someone who never needed saving. Who was the ruthless shark to their minnow.
3. When married men were caught having an affair, they would often turn on their heartbroken wives with rage; accusing the wife of never having loved them, of having abused them. Where did all this anger come from? The new beliefs about the wife? How could they behave so viciously in the divorce; doing everything they could to destroy her or leave her destitute? How could they suddenly try or succeed in killing her? They weren't all previously violent. Where do you think it came from?
4. BPD's were drawn to particular careers; teachers, psychologists/ therapists and sex workers. (I actually did read in mainstream media from a doctor/ researcher that most strippers are BPD).
-------------------------------------------
Understanding borderlines is vital for targets since our enemies are both using them to destroy us AND making us look like them.
Can you imagine what we sound like to the average person who has no understanding that there is a war raging in every community in the world; a holocaust of targets? "Oh no nothing is my fault, it's just everyone is against me! I know things go wrong for me everywhere I go and I'm the common denominator in all these situations but it's not my fault, people just turn against me!"
We have to stop being their hand puppets. And it begins with doing constant prayer over the implanted urges to behave in BPD or Narc ways.
BPD women prefer going after men in relationships. They are often said to have "daddy issues" but I don't think that's true. After watching for years, the way they gleefully take a wrecking ball to other womens lives, delight in their pain, I'd say they have mommy issues. They need to hurt other women as a cathartic release and to boost their self esteem.
And if it's a great high to take a man away from another woman.... how much greater the high to take a man away from a pregnant wife! A wife with cancer! Or the absolute pinnacle..... get him to kill her.
For years I watched and read true crime stories as my main entertainment. I mainly preferred stories about serial killers; I was interested in how they turned out how they did (spoiler alert; mind control), with the occasional husband kills wife story (boring because they were mostly the same).
After I switched to celebrity gossip as my entertainment, I would still read the occasional crime story that caught my eye, usually a cold case going to trial. There would be links to similar stories on the page, so I would read those too. Over and over I would find myself reading a story abut a man who killed his wife after begining an affair (how many would I have read if I read true crime regularly?) When he eventually broke up with his affair partner, she would go straight to the police and tell what he did. She would present herself as some innocent, who only knew after the fact, and stayed with him out of fear. Now he was gone she could do the right thing. After the insight I had gained reading about BPD's and after watching the queen of all borderlines Angelina Jolie rampage through Hollywood relationships, I didn't believe that.
I believed the borderline urged him to kill, did everything she could to talk him into it and her going to the police was simple revenge, or if they hadn't broken up yet; attention and centrality. Now if I knew this from the adventures of one actress and some true crime reading, don't you think the police who run up against these drama causing creatures constantly should have known it even more? Here's a little secret - they do. Prosecutors too.
The "justice system" is part of the system set up by the real leaders/ real terrorists in the world. Its function is not to bring justice, it is to keep the unaware people in the middle of this war, asleep; "Don't worry we're here to take care of all problems, you just stop looking and go back to your own life." Just like the media.
One thing it is the justice systems job to do is try and keep the character and personality disordered people free in the world to cause more damage. So unless an NPD or BPD draws too much attention to themselves or says something that implicates them (they're not as smart as they think they are), they will be allowed to skate. And if that is not possible, I'm sure all of us have seen juries mind controlled to let people off. Not that they help ALL of them (just like not all targets are openly stalked), it would be too obvious a pattern. But there are few actual bad people in prison versus people who were set up and mind controlled to commit crimes.
*NOTE*
Of course not everyone who works in the justice system is aware of the truth (just like the govt and shadow govt). And just like every other group in the world, there are good people and targets mixed in there too. And even most of those who are doing the work of the real terrorists don't *really* know what they are doing. Since they are doing one of the most common and most disastrous behaviours done by the majority of people today - they have not looked into what they are giving their support to. Those who work in the "justice" system need to be told what is going on in the world. Something we can do if we do our constant prayer, understand how our enemies want us to behave, and refuse to be their hand puppets anymore. Sorry for veering off course here but I see so much (induced/ magnified) anger in the world, and people separating into groups who point fingers at, and are hostile to, each other, and know this is the worst thing we could do. We are all in the same boat. They plan to destroy Everybody, even those who help them and (knowingly or unknowingly), do their dirty work. So instead of attacking each other for their amusement, why not refuse to play our part and give information instead? Work together instead?
*END NOTE*
Back to BPD's. Here are some of the BPD's I have seen in true crime/ true life stories. Note which of the BPD behaviours you see from the lists given above. Remember they might not have them all. If you are not comfortable saying they are BPD, then they have BPD traits. And people with BPD traits are people to stay away from.
Something interesting though. They will be called psycopaths, narcissists, anti social, sociopaths, histrionics; almost never borderlines. In fact unless you have studied psychology or done some independent study of your own, you may never even have heard of BPD. It seems almost cloaked.
There is much overlap between the Cluster B personality disorders, rather than distinct lines so I am going to be as generous as possible and say most of the time it is missed, that these people are more BPD than HPD. And BPD's have the same lack of conscience as the sociopath. If they want it, it is theirs. If they want to do something, it is right to do and it is anyone who opposes them who is wrong.
Eric Roberts & Anne Heche (Fatal Desire/ Fatal Error) 2006
A former policeman falls in love with a woman who is being abused by her husband
Wife, Mother, Murderer
A woman born in a poor rural area is determined she will always live a wealthy life
"Like Mother, Like Son" Full Film (Santé & Kenneth Kimes)
mother and son decide to take an elderly womans rental building
Empty cradle
A woman must fight to prove she gave birth to a live baby in the hospital, who was then abducted, and not the dead baby the hospital say is hers.
Thicker than blood larry mclinden
A man must fight to stay in the life of his son despite the best attempts of his ex wife
Barbara Mandrell in The Wrong Girl -Full Movie 1999
A young man begins a volatile relationship
Cold Case Files - Love Triangle
Documentary; Who killed the man found in a burning car? (contains images of the charred body)
Cold Case Files - Death to a Deacon
A man disappears after leaving his home and marriage (contains images of a dead body)
Small Sacrifices
A womans children are shot by a carjacker.
Books:
Blind Faith by Joe McGinniss
A mans wife is killed in a botched car theft/ robbery when they pull into a rest stop.
Before He Wakes by Jerry Bledsoe
A womans two husbands both die in mysterious shooting accidents.
Evidence Of Love by John Bloom & Jim Atkinson
This book is about a woman who killed her lovers wife. The authors potray her as innocent (she was mentally unaware of what she was doing). I found it infuriating and couldn't finish it but I read enough to recognise her for what she was. The signs are there even in a book that is pro killer